Telling the story…celebrating the life



I see myself as a story teller, conducting and writing Funeral Services and Remembrance Ceremonies for families and individuals who want to pay thanks, celebrate and honour the life of their loved ones, in a respectful and memorable way. 

 

I spend time with the family or friends, face to face, at a convenient time to talk through their ideas and hear about the person who has died.  I listen to  their stories, be it funny or sad, their quirks, their hobbies, their experiences and learn about the family culture.  I respect that it is sometimes difficult for people to express how they feel about the person and allow a couple of hours, so people feel relaxed and have time to remember anecdotes.  I then write a bespoke service and send for approval before the ceremony.  A final version is sent with any contributions from friends and family, to keep as a memento.  I can advise on music, hymns or poetry (sometimes bespoke poetry), Eulogies and the Order of Service.   

 

It is important to honour the industry code of conduct, to deliver a professional service and work alongside the Funeral professionals as part of a reliable team.  I liaise with Funeral Directors to ensure the day runs smoothly and make it as positive an experience it can be.

 

I am familiar with crematorium and graveside procedures. 





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Taking part in the service



Speaking at a funeral can be terrifying for many, as grief can affect their ability to communicate.  Having someone read on your behalf is a helpful alternative.  For others reading can be very healing and comforting for them. Children may want to read a poem, story, or sing a song, and it can be a great comfort to them to be involved.  I am open to suggestions and will try and incorporate ideas where possible and allocate time in the service for contributions.  I also act as a backstop, ready to stand in if needed.

 

 

A service is generally 30-40 mins, depending on the venue, so it is essential to ensure contributions are planned where possible and that people are aware of time. I can liaise with all contributors to ensure the service does not overrun.





 

Am I the celebrant for you?

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Finding the right celebrant who makes you feel at ease, who you can trust on the day is really important.  If you want to have a brief chat to get a feel for who I am and how I work, please do call me.  You can then make an informed choice.  I am open to discussion and can suggest other celebrants if I am not available; as well as recommend funeral directors I work with.   

 

If you live overseas or a long distance away I can carry out a telephone consultation or Skype call as an alternative to a face to face meeting. This would be by appointment.